LEMONS + LEMONADE: Have you made anything positive come from this unimaginable loss? Did you find any blessings among all the sadness and sorrow?

Oooooooo, how this could be read made me cringe. Learning to find meaning in my life after the accidental death of my 19-year-old does not equal the cheery quip: “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade!” This is not a criticism of CarlyMarie or her topic. I just wanted to share my first reaction.

Now on to the topic of positive things that have happened after Kade’s death (not that have come FROM his death, because nothing positive has come from his no longer being in the world):

• I’ve gotten to know his friends. I appreciate how they let me into their lives, come to our memorial events, keep Kade’s memory alive, and remain loyal friends to him. They seemed to intrinsically “get” the idea of Continuing Bonds, a healthy way to grieve.
• I acknowledge the fleetingness of life. And the beauty of life. It can be gone in an instant and I don’t take that for granted.
• There’s nothing like a little trauma to help you reevaluate your life, your future, your priorities, and your vocation. I decided to embark on a path to becoming a grief counselor.
• Though I am by no means anywhere where I hope to be, and have much work to do, I am a little more self-reflective. A little more willing to speak my truth. A little more likely to speak out on behalf of others.

Kade’s friends at his 23rd birthday party: Jason, Beau, Chadd, Chrissie, Dylan, Craig, Tyler, Shay, Johnny, Ari, (Autumn’s friend), and Autumn